I have just come to the end of strange limbo period called Gardening Leave. As of last week I am now Unemployed For Real. I had been pretty relaxed about things until now, but I woke up on my first day of Real Unemployment and felt different inside.
I have been employed in some capacity or other since the age of 14, and this past week I have an edgy feeling that something is not right. When my mind is empty for a few minutes I feel very uneasy, my stomach lurches and for a split second I feel panic.
So, this week I am focussing on the positive changes in my life over the last three months and how my life is slowly improving for the better.
This weekend the press produced yet another series of articles about women leaving it too late to have children. Apparently the Chief Medical Officer is worried that women are postponing having children or choosing not to have any at all. I feel qualified to comment as I had children at 31, 33 and 43. I didn’t ‘choose’ when to have any of them, they arrived with very little input from me. I only know of two friends who formally announced that they were ‘trying’ and then got pregnant in less than a year. ‘Choosing’ when to have children is an illusion – like choosing your preferred state school 4 years later. Usually there is no choice as such, just a set of planets in erratic orbits suddenly synchronising and producing their very own Big Bang.
I certainly don’t have all the answers yet I’m afraid, but I can tell you that you are not alone.
The Institute of Leadership and Management
recently carried out a poll of 1000 employees. 19% expected to change jobs this year and of this 39% would like to change career and try something new. Almost exactly one year ago I had started to come to the same decision. Like anyone I had sometimes thought about changing jobs before, but this feeling was different. I knew it was time for a complete change.
These are my first 3 steps for planning career change. You can take these steps now and it will help you start to feel it is at least possible. Continue Reading →
Last week, I started two very different courses and they are worlds apart.
Firstly, I am doing a web design and WordPress course at a Local Authority College. The ‘Digital Suite’ is a very small room with a very large radiator, belting out heat. There are ten tiny workstations wedged into the room. Fortunately, only seven people have signed up, otherwise we would struggle to squeeze in. We will all be sitting in this tiny room for 3 hours every Monday afternoon, trying to get to grips with the heat from the radiator and building a website. As with all group courses the pace of study is likely to be determined by the slowest person, and I am hoping it’s not me! Continue Reading →
Today my 3 sons went back to school. They all had very different Christmas breaks and all went back in very different moods. It made me realise just how short childhood is these days.
Son 3 is 5 years old and in Reception year at school. I think that there is every chance that if you analysed it, being 5 is just about as good as it gets at Christmas. He wholeheartedly, 100% KNOWS that Father Christmas is real, and more importantly, he KNOWS that Father Christmas lives at Bocketts Farm
in the week before Christmas. He has no doubts and always gets the thing he most wants for Christmas (this year’s random request was for a toy horse – simple!). For him the last 3 weeks have been a constant stream of family visitors, special meals, chocolate treats, cinema visits and playdates. As always the final day of the holidays is reserved for a visit to the Dinosaurs at the Natural History Museum
. His ‘dinosaur phase’ is now in its third year and doesn’t show any signs of fading. Continue Reading →
I have never broken
a New Year’s Resolution…fact. Truth is I have never made any to break. Rather than give up drinking
in January, I did once pledge to drink every day for the whole month. Something that I achieved way too easily. However, since I am currently at what can only be described as a turning point in my life, I am allowing myself a few very simple ‘hopes’ for my new life in 2014. Continue Reading →